Choose a rhythm with their parents
Ask what kind of contact fits family life. A short call at a predictable time can be easier than frequent surprise calls. Some days a child will talk; some days they will run off. Let the connection be flexible instead of making every call a performance.
Have a tiny shared ritual
Read the same short story, show each other the view from a window, or ask what made each of you laugh. Send a simple postcard or a drawing for them to open with their parents. Follow their interests as they change.
Remember the details
Keep a private note of the book they love or the project they mentioned. Ask about it next time. The message is simple: your world matters to me, even when I cannot be in the same room.
Take the pressure off the reunion
When you visit, allow time to warm up. Familiarity can grow through quiet play and ordinary routines. A hug does not have to be demanded to make the visit meaningful. Let them choose how to greet you and find your way into the day together.
with love, my grammy era
